Birthdays Come but Once a Year.

Birthdays usually mean one of two things:

1. Time to celebrate with friends and talk about all the things you’ve done and all the things you will do.

2. Lay in bed miserable crying about how old you are, feeling badly about all the time you’ve wasted and blah blah blah. (Fortunately, being 24 I haven’t had to experience such thoughts yet, and hopefully never will, but I digress).

Let’s say you fall into bucket #1, birthdays can be like new beginnings, an automatic refresh button that allows us to reset our lives. New Years brings New Year resolutions with hopes of being a better you. Anniversaries give us a reason to celebrate one more year of love and happiness with boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands, and wives.

Point being, everyone has a day that forces them to take a step back and examine life, and get a pulse of their progression. It just seems odd to me that as people we don’t reflect more often and think of everyday as the refresh button. Every day is a chance to take a step back, take a deep breath and look back upon our lives. Every day has the potential to be a “New Year”, a “Birthday” and every day is a new step  on your journey.

Basically what I’m trying to say, is that birthdays only come once a year, so we shouldn’t have to wait for them to take time and reflect. Lord knows I am not that patient. But frankly, we have that option every single day.
Here are the ways I choose to take a step back :
  1. Meditation –Top 8 Tips for Meditation.
  2. Reading –  these are my favorites: Iyanla Vanzant- One Day my Soul Just Opened Up & Micheal Singer – The Untethered Soul.
  3. Get a journal and write down your goals that way you have something tangible to work towards.
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Wait..So Life Doesn’t Pause when I Need a Break?

I don’t claim to know everything, if fact this blog is precisely about the opposite. This blog is based on the principles of me not knowing anything about the future but what I have learned from my past and what I am currently learning about the present. With that being said, I thought I would be breaking my cardinal rule of being honest, if I didn’t share a little secret about where I’ve been learning some things about life and being in my twenties.

With the hope of turning pinkrosesandredwine into  a place that helps young people, much like what Oprah’s book club did for the average suburban mom/housewife/and television watcher. Here I go..

Over the summer I read the The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter — And How to Make the Most of Them Now,  by University of Virginia clinical psychologist Meg Jay. She breaks the book up into three parts, the first being Work, second Love, and lastly the Brain.

In each section, she discusses the relationship twenty-somethings have with that specific part of the book. Using the real life examples of clients she’s worked with, Jay makes these tough life lessons easy to digest and execute effectively. The book spells out the truths associated with all the decisions twenty-somethings make and how they will affect them in the future. The points she makes are bold, intelligent, and undeniably true.

She puts a real life price on how crucial this period is in a person’s life. Whether you are a twenty-something or know one, this book can be beneficial in figuring out issues your son/daughter/friend/or relative are going through.

Here are a couple links that explain the book in more detail. One is a podcast with the author, and the other is an article from Business Insider:

http://www.npr.org/2012/04/22/150429128/our-roaring-20s-the-defining-decade

http://www.businessinsider.com/dr-meg-jay-the-defining-decade-2012-7?op=1

Let me know your thoughts on the book if you’ve heard of it, or if you are currently reading it!